There are lots and lots of people who have responded (and who keep responding!) to Paul Johnson’s request that we share ways that we show love and that others show love to us. Oddly, most of today’s writers choose to remain anonymous.
I think I know why. I never want to tell everyone about all the wonderful things my own husband does for me, because I don’t want any ladies getting any ideas. He’s all mine, people! Back off!
That being the case, here’s what a bunch of anonymous writers (and a couple who have shared their names) have to say to us today.
I think that the subject is a great one. It would be nice to hear more positive things. I think we can all learn from each other in expressing more love. This world sure needs it.
I always try to say thank you to my family, my husband and children. Saying thank you helps them to respond better to me, too.
I make it a daily habit to even notice the small things. This is especially hard but most important on a bad day. I say thank you for taking out the garbage, thank you for being patient (especially to a small child who is trying hard to be still), thank you for feeding the dogs, or thank you for doing anything. I also try hard to thank the person for whatever it is I just asked them to do, like pick up their clothes. I also make sure to thank for the big things, such as doing the dishes, making your bed, yard work, and so on.
When I give thanks, it is amazing to see my own attitude change, to one of love and gratitude. Whenmy whole attitude changes, I emanate a sense of love to all those around me. Making this a daily habit, especially on bad days, is so important, and it brings so much peace into the home.
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Thanks for the reminder to be grateful, Grateful. It really does help the person who expresses the gratitude as much as it helps the person who receives it. And while we’re at it, it’s important to thank God, who is the giver of all good gifts. This is even (and perhaps especially) true when times are bad.
Mother Teresa said, "I cannot do great things, only littlethings with great love." I agree and add, “And with that great love, God works miracles with our little acts. The impact of love isimmeasurable and eternal, and the efforts to show love are never, everwasted.”
You and Mother Teresa make a great team, Bob. I think I’m going to steal your quote for the end of today’s column.
This topic is a good idea. I get tired of reading complaints, complaints,complaints. Yawn. After all, we can all complain if "prompted." I'm pretty much done with the complaining stage of my life. I like to see the good in everything because mostly it’s just life and that's how it goes. Acceptance is important.
So, yes, love begets love. I love that Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ are all about love. I love how love is stronger than hate. I don't have a spouse right now, but if I did I would love him unconditionally, just as we love our children.
God loves us and saves judgment for the last day. Scientifically, our hearts are at their most relaxed when we are in the act of hugging someone, showing love. Is that a coincidence? I think not.
I like your idea, Accepting, that showing love is heart-healthy. Isn’t that true!
I once read a story about a grandmother who had a secret signal of love for her grandchildren. If she squeezed the grandchild's hand quickly three times it meant I--Love--You. The children learned to respond with their own silent signal of love.
She later suffered a stroke, and it was her grandchildren's silent hand squeezes that gave her the hope to recover. My grandchildren and I now share this silent signal often when we are together. It's wonderfully reassuring, and brings smiles every time.
Silent signals are great, Monti. And the best thing is that they’re customizable! My own husband has a signal for me that I can spot across a room, or that he can remind me by making the motions on my knee. Every time he does it, I feel loved.
My husband shows his love by going to work everyday and bringing home his paycheck for our family. He showed love by partnering with me to adopt eight children, some with disabilities. We go on a date every week. We always tell our love to each other.
I show my love by telling him thank you often. I let him know that he makes me very happy. I do things for him that he has a hard time doing because of his full time job — things like laundry, cooking, and errands that have to be run during the day.
We show our love for each other by having a couple prayer daily and a family prayer daily and by reading scripture with our family daily, as often as we remember. We show our love by talking to each other about our concerns and projects that we want to do together or alone. We show our love by being a team and by not blaming each other if things don't work out. We try to work together on solving the problem instead.
When we have disagreements, as we sometimes do, we say sorry to each other, make amends if needed, and move on. We show love to our children by spending time with them, having family nights, taking them out to eat, and going on vacations together.
I keep a journal for my grown children so I can share my thoughts, feelings, adventures, and testimony with them. Even though some of them are not active at church, they still love my journals. Every year, they get my journal for Christmas.
We have learned that it is best to teach by love and example, and every child has to walk his or her own path. Our job is to love them and keep all our promises to God and family.
It sounds as though you and your husband have made your luck, Lucky. You have a wonderful life, and it sounds as though gratitude is a big part of it.
I have written you several times in response to your column. As you have said, the latest request for letters is somewhat different. My response is also somewhat different. You stated that you did not anticipate much response, so maybe mine will be helpful and can assist in filling space.