I am a widow. I was married for 20 years before my husband died. He's been gone for two years and I'm lonely. I have jumped into the dating pool, but when I go out on dates, I feel like I am cheating on my dead husband. How do I overcome this?
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Your Hardest Family Question: How can I listen to my friend’s marriage issues without getting emotionally invested?
I'm noticing that as I listen to and help my friends, I can feel that familiar anxiety creeping in again. I know my husband is in a good place and I want to believe that the changes he is making are permanent, but I feel flashes of fear as these women come to me.
My frustration is not necessarily the kids, but what happens to my husband when they are here. As soon as they arrive, it’s as if we’re not even married anymore. He schedules things that don’t include me, he won’t acknowledge me when I enter the room if he’s hanging out with them, and he generally becomes more cold and aloof toward me.
As in all relationships, we had our "honeymoon phase". This was so great and I was really beginning to think I had found the man I had never known I needed. However, as the relationship progressed, I started letting my mind get the better of me.
My wife occasionally has vivid dreams that disturb her after she wakes up. She sometimes dreams that I’m cheating on her with another woman. She feels they are warning her or telling her something important about her life.
My mother is a schoolteacher and during the summers she likes to travel across the country to visit family for a month or so. Sometimes my children and I go with her, but this year she only wants my children to come with her.
The reason adolescents join gangs is that they need this larger identity. The reason they want to follow a certain style or behave in a particular way is that they have an inherent need to be part of something larger than themselves--That “thing,” of course, should be family.