We have a mini-topic today, because this isn’t one that’s going to take a whole lot of discussion.  Nevertheless, it’s a big problem for a Relief Society president who feels as though she is orbiting Saturn while her ward is down here on earth.  Here is her situation:

I am currently serving as Relief Society president, and our bishop is really not sharing the information I need in order for me to fulfill my calling.  He doesn't have time to meet with me each week, and he probably doesn't need to, but even when there is something going on that I need to know about, he forgets.  The priesthood leadership makes decisions in PEC or bishopric meeting and forgets to tell me on a regular basis.  I’m sure they don’t intend to shut me out; this is just an oversight.  Even so, it is really hindering me in my calling.

So my question is how can I encourage better communication without offending anyone?  Just mentioning the need to know seems to make the bishop defensive, and it isn’t my intention to do that.  I don't want to know anything I don't need to know.  Frankly, I can't always remember all the things I am supposed to know.  I could certainly benefit from the experiences of other sisters (and brothers, for that matter).

Out of the Loop

There you have it, Readers.  I hope some of you have experience with this — and if you’re married to a bishop, or if you are a bishop, I hope you will give us some bishoply input and leadership advice.  This is not a situation where we need to bishop-bash, and indeed there is no situation ever where we should be bishop-bashing.  Only constructive advice is needed.

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Until next time — Kathy

“My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.”

Proverbs 5:2