Be prepared to experience feelings you may not have had for many years, as these may take you by surprise. Five years after my divorce I finally met a man who attracted me, but being unprepared for feelings I hadn't had for 40 years I speedily ended up in my bishop's office, sadder but wiser, and I know I'm not alone in this. Approach all new relationships with caution and remember that the Church's counsel on dating applies to the middle-aged+ as well as to young couples.
Eric bunkerOctober 25, 2013
I am not a counselor. I have been married, divorced, and remarried.30 years. Being a ward and stake clerk for 15 years, I have heard a lot.If you are coming from the death of a spouse, remember that less than 10% of the singles you meet, are even worthy of your consideration.At least half of them will be abusers on some level. This includes both men and women. It be wise if you took a class on all the aspects of abuse in marriage so that you can gauge yourself and others you may meet. Make sure that this class treats the genders equally. This is even more important if you come from a divorce. Too many divorced singles come into single life with the word victim on the front of their chest. If you can't get the victim ideal done with, you are not ready to date. If you have minor children and the one you want to marry has minor children, you are asking yourself to step into a living hell. Life gets really complicated with that choice
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ABOctober 25, 2013
Be prepared to experience feelings you may not have had for many years, as these may take you by surprise. Five years after my divorce I finally met a man who attracted me, but being unprepared for feelings I hadn't had for 40 years I speedily ended up in my bishop's office, sadder but wiser, and I know I'm not alone in this. Approach all new relationships with caution and remember that the Church's counsel on dating applies to the middle-aged+ as well as to young couples.
Eric bunkerOctober 25, 2013
I am not a counselor. I have been married, divorced, and remarried.30 years. Being a ward and stake clerk for 15 years, I have heard a lot.If you are coming from the death of a spouse, remember that less than 10% of the singles you meet, are even worthy of your consideration.At least half of them will be abusers on some level. This includes both men and women. It be wise if you took a class on all the aspects of abuse in marriage so that you can gauge yourself and others you may meet. Make sure that this class treats the genders equally. This is even more important if you come from a divorce. Too many divorced singles come into single life with the word victim on the front of their chest. If you can't get the victim ideal done with, you are not ready to date. If you have minor children and the one you want to marry has minor children, you are asking yourself to step into a living hell. Life gets really complicated with that choice
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