Your world's been upended. There was a secret physical and/or emotional relationship which violated the exclusivity of your marriage. No matter how far it went, you feel betrayed. Many people in your shoes find themselves looking at the door, but can you walk away from your years together, your life together, and the family you've made together? It's a tough choice. How can you know if you should be done?
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There may be nothing so devastating to a marriage as infidelity. The eradicated trust, the deep wounds of betrayal, and the feelings of shame create a perfect storm, wreaking havoc from which many never come back. If this is your current situation, know that through the pain there is hope.
Many years ago, when I was way too young, I fell in love with a very cute boy, who was also too young. I was stupid and foolish, but very much in love, and I gave myself to him. Later, I married a wonderful and honorable priesthood holder. We've been married now for almost 50 years, and I do love him dearly. My problem? Through the years, I'm ashamed to say, my old flame and I have occasionally been in secret contact with each other and I can't stop thinking of and dreaming of him.
I have often witnessed a haunting scene. A man comes into the room looking broken. Soon he begins to sob. He tells a familiar story. He has been unfaithful and now he is in danger of losing his wife, his children, his friends, his church membership, and possibly his eternal life. The scene becomes even more tragic when his wife joins him. This moment could've been avoided by following these ten commandments of marriage.
Recently my wife told me to pack up and leave the house. We have been married since February of this year and it’s been a rollercoaster since then because of one simple reason...Me. Recently she found out I had been lying about my job and what I was doing for work. A while ago I created what I thought was a harmless white lie, but in time it got bigger and more elaborate and just continued to grow.
It is just hours now before you kneel across the temple altar with your sweetheart to begin a new life, and I will miss your presence in the green bedroom at the end of the hall. I never quite get used to the reality that as parents we hold tight on to you for years and then one day we have to open our hands and just let go. I want to send you off to marriage with a secret.
I’m 75 years old, married, and I want to learn how to stop flirting with women. Do you have any suggestions you can give me?