Dave Barry ironically observed that “Americans who travel abroad for the first time are often shocked to discover that, despite all the progress that has been made in the past 30 years, many foreign people still speak in foreign languages.” It’s human nature to expect people to learn our language, to do things our way, to meet our needs. Nowhere is that more evident than in marriage.
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There is hardly a poorer way to show understanding or compassion than to say to someone in pain, “I know just how you feel.” That is equally true whether the pain is physical or emotional. There are times when a dear one is suffering, and we want to offer words of comfort and compassion. What are the best ways of doing that?
I used to struggle with an addiction to pornography that came about during a period of clinical depression. While I overcame this addiction and married a wonderful man, I am still haunted, years later, by images and dark sexual fantasies when I am intimate with my husband.
My husband is addicted to his iPhone. Really. Within less than five minutes of walking through the door he’s scrolling through his phone, and there’s rarely breaks longer than 15 minutes between scrolls after that. I’ve tried ignoring it, having serious conversations about it, casually reminding him, and no goal has ever lasted longer than 12 hours.
A successful companionship requires not only patience, hard work, commitment, compassion, and unselfishness but continued stretching. So when Father says that “marriage is ordained of God,” He has something loftier in mind than a pleasant evening or even a lifetime of pleasant evenings.
I know that I do love him in some ways, but never have really been "in love" with him. How can I let go of doubts and truly love him as he is? I have read, pondered, cried, and prayed but still those feelings return at times. Can you give any advice?
He tells me I'm not qualified to raise our child and that my instincts as a mother are dead wrong because he is more in tune with the Spirit than I am. We've already been to counseling and both counselors said he's very controlling and wasn't willing to work on the anger he admits he has.