My second husband, to whom I am sealed, has given up on his ambitions and believes he has failed as a man and a husband and wants to "release me" to marry another man. I have told him that I am committed to my covenants to him and will not re-marry because I will always love him, but that has not swayed his decision in any way.
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I have been married for 25 years. A little over four years ago my husband told me he is addicted to women. Even though he’s had a problem with pornography most of his life, his main problem is that he criticizes me and compares me to every woman he’s seen. He has multiple crushes on women from our ward and neighborhood and admits to having inappropriate thoughts about them.
My wife really struggles to care about and enjoy sexual intimacy with me. We’ve been married for over twenty years and I get tired of going through the same routine where I bring it up, she promises to do better, nothing happens, and then she forgets until I bring it up again. After one frustrating letdown recently, she suggested that we schedule sex once a week on the same day and time to make sure I get my needs met. I don’t want this becoming something that she dreads and endures. I have no idea if this is healthy for our marriage.
Prior to marriage, I was aware that my husband had struggled with pornography addiction and other sexual compulsions, but was told that it had been resolved. Recently, it has become clear that it is an ongoing problem. How do I help him see what this is doing to me and our marriage without shaming him and making the problem worse?
If your spouse had an affair, while you may or may not fully meet the criteria for PTSD, there is a component of trauma (often called betrayal trauma) which no doubt affects your emotional health and your relationships every single day. If you had an affair, understanding trauma and its effects will go a long way towards helping you earn your spouse’s trust. Let’s move in closer and look out how betrayal trauma affects both spouses.
The Family: A Proclamation to the World instructs that “by divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness” and that “fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.” Some see this instruction as contradictory, so how can we reconcile this seeming discrepancy?
My stomach is tied in knots and I feel in a constant state of anxiety. My husband walked out a week ago and said he needed to separate. He said that he could not take it anymore. We had started seeing a counselor and I thought things were getting better, if only slightly. We had a very small disagreement (if you even want to call it that) the night he left and he blew up and walked out. I can't sleep. I can't think. I am afraid. I am afraid for my future and for my children. Please help.