Not long ago I was visiting with a Young Single Adult who asked, "what is the purpose of dating?" And "when is it okay to kiss?" Here are insights from Church leaders that may help answer those important questions.
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I have a vested interest in single adults because I spent so much of my life as a single woman. My name is Kristen Meredith McMain Oaks. I married President Dallin H. Oaks, now of the First Presidency and then of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, when I was almost 53 years old. I rejoiced during my single years, and I suffered through them too, while I was discovering what Heavenly Father wanted for me.
As a professional matchmaker, I have been privileged to hear thousands of heartbreaking, beautiful, and amazing dating stories from singles in the 31–45 age range, otherwise known as mid-singles. As I compare and contrast the various situations of the individuals involved and the struggles they endure, there are many common themes. I have boiled them down to five tips that I think you'll find helpful.
Getting these things out in the open and understanding where you’re each coming from on these topics will go a long way in easing the transition into married life and even though some of them are hard to bring up, I promise you’ll be very glad you did.
We get little or no training for one of the most important decisions of our lives—the choice of a spouse. Along the courtship path we struggle; we fall in and out of love. We wonder about our compatibility and how to recognize a good choice. We’re never quite sure. Are there reliable principles to better guide our decision process?
As a young woman, Lisa eagerly anticipated the day she’d be married and start a family, but that day came years later than she could have imagined. In her single years, she gained faith in God’s careful timing for each of His children.
It seems more and more young people today are postponing marriage, often because they want to marry someone who’s perfect now.