Another factor is this is a massive overhaul of how we teach youth about the law of chastity. Unfortunately, we're reaping what we've sown. Teaching girls that they are responsible for men's 'dirty' or sinful thoughts is a sure-fire way to program girls to think that sex is bad, that they are bad. After years of suppressing all desire (a natural part of development), and being made to feel guilty about even experiencing it you can't just flip a switch on your wedding day and expect that desire will instantly function as it should.
My first wife and I could not get past the "good girl" thing. I developed an addiction to pornography because I could not live without the sex and I thought that everything would be ok if I just did not bother her about it. We just could not communicate about it.I admit that I was young, stupid, impatient, and selfish. Now, much later in life and having overcome the porn addiction, thanks to the Church's recovery program, I accept responsibility for mydestructive actions but I also know there is fault on both sides. A man should not choose pornography any more than a woman should withold herself from her husband. And if he then goes to pornography, she should not put all the blame on him. It takes two to tango.
It doesn't help that so so many of us are dealing with pornogrpahy addictions in our spouses. How can we get to a healthy place sexually when we know what they're looking at and fantasizing about?
Got your book: thanks. Rock on Lady Laura
If you consider Moses 1:39 - "For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man" - part of the work and glory of God is to receive a physical body - which, inherently includes sex - it is as much a part of the glory of God as are the temple ordinances - no person can progress toward eternal life without a body, born of the sexual act - it is sacred, it is every bit as sacred as the temple. And we were created so as to glorify God - in every detail. The issue is timing, and keeping it within the bounds the Lord has set - which is, within marriage - and within those bounds, it is glorious, or should be, or is designed to be!
I understand the nature of this article. However for those of us who have been sexually abused or have husbands that have abused pornography and have sexual addictions, I don't see all the issues involved with those situations being addressed here. Sexual addiction is rampant in our society and "rejoicing in our sexual natures" will not circumvent the healing involved. Sexual issues in marriage do not have a cookie cutter approach. These issues are complex and must be addressed in tune with God's guidance and promptings.
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